How’s Our “Self-Talk”?
“Be careful with what you say to yourself, about yourself and what happens to you. Too often we say to ourselves things that we BELIEVE as facts and the truth, when in fact they are not true, and can actually be destructive, towards ourselves and others.”
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When we are faced with difficult situations / failures / rejections, including praises from others, what do we say to ourselves?
Sometimes, it happens in our head (when we’re alone, before we go to bed, even when we’re washing the dishes!). Sometimes, we say it out loud.
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This is a self-reminder.
At the same time, this is what I share with the kids, too.
Once in a while, I may hear one of our kids say things like:
“I’m not good at anything.”
or
“I’m always getting blamed!”
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The above is of course not true, but when left undetected/unchanged, such continual self-talk will work like poison.
And so, when we detect it in our kids, we grab such teachable moments (sometimes “not immediately”, depending on the situation), and share with them why such self-talks are wrong, and are sinful. Our hope is for our children to develop their own personal ‘radars’ in their lives.
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Anyway.
I’m reminded a few months ago, that when our self-talk is unhealthy (tends to blame others, complains, full of self-pity, etc.):
– realise and recognise its presence
– come clean in the presence of God asking for forgiveness because we have sinned against Him
– ask God for help, so our self-talk can be purified
– fill our minds and hearts with God’s Word
– read and meditate on the Truth
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(Doing what’s “right” does not come naturally. In fact, no one can do what’s right, not according to God’s standards. So if, if we can think/say/do what’s right, then it is only by God’s grace and help.)
Food for thought.
