Material Things Do Not Equal to LOVE
A mom of 3 shared:
My teenage son said that he doesn’t need us in his life. He is angry with us. What he said hurt my feelings.
I know I have been busy with his 2 younger siblings and spent little time with the eldest over last few years. I don’t understand why he is not happy. We bought all that he wants. We got him iPhone X!
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Can material things replace a child’s longing for parents’ time, attention and affection?
Unfortunately, no.
Children grow upWhen they are little, we can still hear them say:
‘Mommy, come and play cooking with me!’
‘Daddy, can you play hide and seek with me?’
‘Mommy, can you read a book with me?’
But over time, such requests (often heard as ‘annoying nagging voices’ by parents) are no longer there for us to fulfil.
Children grow up.
And they choose to get busy with friends, school and gadgets.
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Giving material things, though in itself is not always wrong, does not equal to ‘love’.
And the reality is, this is a ‘lie’ many parents often believe.
ie. Child will feel loved when they are given gifts and gadgets, taken to fancy holidays and restaurants.
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Moms and dads,
Let’s make the initiatives and create opportunities to relate, communicate and spend time with them, each one of them?
While we still can.
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Giving material things, though in itself is not always wrong, does not equal to ‘love’As for me, … making each of my kids feel loved is a continual struggle with frequent self-reflection and self-reminders.
Every now and then, feelings of failure and helplessness come and go.
It’s not easy.
(This is one reason why God’s grace is so much needed. I sure can’t do it with own strength and wisdom)