Not Everyone will Score High in Exams!
One thing that is USUALLY not quite liked by parents and children is, exams.
Before the exams, some kids tend to stress out, because parents and teachers stress them out. So much to cover, so little time.
And some parents stress out when they see their kids are not stressed out about their exams.
When the exams are over, parents and kids stress out again, wondering if the results will be good enough.
Sounds familiar to some? May be?
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Now here’s a thought to share:
Not everyone will score high in exams.
And it’s OK.
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Why is it OK?
Because.
No, we should never encourage ‘laziness’Some of these children will grow up and become musicians, and if they don’t get high scores in science, it’s OK, isn’t it?
Some of them will become artists/painters, and if they have a different kind of approach to art from what’s being taught at school, … and it’s OK, isn’t it?
Some will become chefs, radio announcers, athletes or dancers, and their scores in physics or maths will not matter as much by then.
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The line between ‘encouraging’ and ‘pressurising’ is often very thinYes, we should always encourage children to do their very best as they’re personally responsible to God for the opportunities, time and talents that they’re blessed with.
(And no, we should never encourage ‘laziness’. This discussion needs another post.)
But, the line between ‘encouraging’ and ‘pressurising’ is often very thin.
Too many parents (consciously / unconsciously) place too high a value on SCORES and ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENTS rather than EFFORTS and LEARNING PROCESS.
Some will become chefs, radio announcers, athletes or dancersAnd as the result, children end up thinking that they’re only valuable in the eyes of the parents ONLY IF they can score high in school.
That, if they fail in school exams, they fail in life 😟
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Reminder to self:
As we support and encourage our children to do their best according to their own individual capacity, let’s make sure that they know we love them no matter what happens.
That we’ll stand by them along the way of their growing up journey 🙏
