Car Talk: Trust is Like a Glass Ball
Being trustworthy is something that we highly value and naturally instill in our kids since they’re young.
And it starts from simple things, like:
I feel our ‘job’ as a parent includes nurturing our kids’ strengths, and helping them to slowly tackle and get rid of their weaknesses
When you say you’ll do the dishes ‘later’, do you really do it, or do you need to be reminded again and again and again, and even then, it’s still not completed?
When you say you’ve completed ‘all’ your homework, have you really checked your school agenda and made sure ‘all’ has been done?
Does Mom need to always ‘check’ on you, to make sure that you’ve done what you said you have?
(This btw is something that I do NOT wish to do)
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We pray that all our children grow and become trustworthy adultsAs a mom of three, I know my kids’ strengths and weaknesses.
And when it comes to ‘weaknesses’, yes I have to deal with them everyday, too.
Tendencies to whine and complain. Pride. Lack of empathy. Selfish thoughts.
Including, lack of ‘realisation that trust is important’, that consequently leads to ‘forgetfulness’ to complete tasks that have been entrusted to them.
I feel our ‘job’ as a parent includes nurturing our kids’ strengths, and helping them to slowly tackle and get rid of their weaknesses, so, as a person of the faith, I hope they grow and become more Christ-like and a blessing to all, wherever they are.
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When can we have such talks?
Well, anytime really.
But now that we’re in Jakarta, I find one of the ‘best’ moments to do this, is when we’re all in a car together.
(We spend a LOT of time together in a car, thanks to the wonderful Jakarta traffic condition =)
Anyway, this is my ‘car talk’ with the 3 kids this morning, as I drove them to school.
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Trust is like this fragile ball made of glass.
Hold on to it tightly and make sure it doesn’t fall and get broken.
Sometimes by accident, we drop the ball and break it. You’ve disappointed the person who gave you that glass ball. Out of love, that person puts the pieces together.
You have to hold on to that glass ball extra carefully to earn back that trust, and it’s not easy to doYou have to hold on to that glass ball extra carefully to earn back that trust, and it’s not easy to do.
The glass ball may represent: Mom’s trust that you always tell the truth, Mom’s trust that when you say you’ve completed a task, it really HAS been completed properly, etc.
We all must work hard to hold on to our glass balls, all the trusts that have been given to us.
Mommy and Daddy love you but we won’t always be with you. You’ll grow up and be on your own. But we pray that all our children grow and become trustworthy adults, who always do what they say they would, although no one ‘checks’ on them.
Learning starts from now.
Remember this always.
