Things People Say to … Fat People
Something happened when I was at the hair saloon today.
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A woman in her 30s entered a hair saloon, and some 30 seconds later, a hairdresser in her 50s casually commented:
‘Whoaaa…you are so fat now! Really fat! You want to compete with your mother ya …?’
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I was there, and I thought, ‘HUH? What did I just hear?’
Ppfft.
Seriously, I find it interesting how some people can make such comments and NOT feel it can hurt another’s feeling.
I mean, as far as I know, no one wants to be big and fat.
And, such comments can never (and should never) be uttered by anyone, to anyone.
Gee.
I had such comments given to me like, 20 years ago.
I was chubby, flabby and I had relatives making jokes again and again about my body.
It wasn’t funny. It wasn’t nice.
But I smiled to them anyway as I thought that’s the polite thing to do.
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That woman btw, bitterly smiled, looked down and sat next to me.
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Anyway, when I shared this topic on Facebook, here are some thoughts shared by others:
– People seems to enjoy mocking at others’ physical shortcomings. Nevertheless, fat people can always lose weight. Ugly hearts will stay ugly if they don’t recognize their vicious tongues are hurting.
– Small minds/hearts people don’t like to compliment due to jealousy. They focus on other’s shortcomings especially physical flaws so as to balance off their jealous hearts and feed on their own inferiority complex . This makes me put more weight in teaching my kids to NOT judge a person solely on their appearances.
– Verbal “insult” cannot be seen but causes wounds that dig far and deep into the receiver heart. If you really do not have anything to say to any particular person, just keep quiet instead of making hurtful remarks.
I get hurt inside when my mom calls me big. Even though I am already a mother on a toddler, she still does that in front of my family. I stopped caring about that months ago.
Sigh… Even when our loved ones say such things to us, even without any bad intention in their heart, unfortunately it still hurts ya … =(
My mom does that once in a while. She always thinks that it would be m way easier for me to find my soul mate if I were a few kilograms thinner.