Car Talks : Three Types of People and Their Responsibilities
Living in Jakarta, I find myself spending a lot of time with the kids ON THE ROAD.
And after a while, I kind of realised that that’s where we discuss many issues and important values too.
Now recently, this thought crossed my mind : It’d be nice to remember the kinds of things we talk about in the car.
Or even, the kinds of values we share with the kids.
So.
That’s the reason why I’m starting my ‘Car Talks’ blog post series!
(I don’t know how ‘consistent’ I’ll blog about this , but oh well … we’ll just see, I guess =)
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>> Daily parenting situation:
I find myself needing to repeat my instructions again and again for things to be done.
And quite often, they still are not done.
Drives me nuts.
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>> Thoughts shared with the kids, on our way to school:
– Generally, there are three types people:
1. Even though he has been told/reminded to do something (ie. His responsibility), he still doesn’t do it.
2. He does his responsibility, ONLY when someone tells him to do it.
3. He proactively does what he needs to do, even BEFORE anyone asks or tells him to do it. He does it automatically, because he knows how it is part of his responsibility.
– The worst is group no. 1, because he simply does not care about anything. He is not responsible and the list of his excuses is usually endless.
– The better one is those in group no. 2. He does his work, his responsibility, whenever others tell him to do it. But, he doesn’t do anything if no one tells him to do it.
– The best out of the three is those in group no. 3, because these people not only know what their responsibilities are, they also proactively DO them WITHOUT being asked / told.
>> In reality, even adults – many of them – are in group 1 and 2.
eg. They ignore their responsibilities and/or they’d only work when they’re told what to do. They don’t initiate ideas, etc.
>> Main emphasis shared with the kids:
We should always strive to be like those in group no. 3, ie. Become someone who does NOT need to be told again and again about what he should be doing.
Someone who does his responsibilities without being told.
– Mommy and Daddy need to be like those in group no. 3, too. We still need to learn too, to be proactive, to be responsible in all things.
– Once we realise that we’re still in group no. 1 and 2, then we must try our very best to change towards the better, with God’s help.
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So there you go.
The first of my ‘car talk’ series =)
Years from today, when our children read my posts, including this one, I hope they’ll remember the mornings, afternoons and nights we spent together on the road and the kind of things we chat about =)
To Anya, Vai and Brie,
We love you and we hope … together as a family, we learn to care for one another better, and strive to be better people, the kind of people God wants us to be.
Amen.
