Marriage Tips and Thoughts : Try something new
I recently shared how, as parents, we may tend to forget about our ‘other similarly important roles’, ie. as a spouse. As someone’s wife. Someone’s husband.
I don’t know about you, but personally I often find the busyness of our daily routines – work, house chores, kids, errands, other commitments – rather overwhelming (and draining), and we’re left with too little energy to refresh our relationship with each other.
And so here’s the very first marriage tips and thoughts that I’d like to share on this site.
The write-up serves as a nice little reminder to me, and I hope you’ll benefit from reading it too.
Enjoy.
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Source: Focus on the Family (Canada)
If you and your spouse have very different pastime activities, consider ways to “play together” to strengthen your marriage. Even if you have very different interests, you still probably share general similarities.
For instance, if she likes to sew and he likes to fix cars, both can enjoy a pastime that involves working with details and working with your hands.
Begin with discussing each other’s interests and ideas of leisure, then look at the fundamental reasons why you’re drawn to those activities.
Trying out your spouse’s pastime doesn’t hurt either – you might like it! And if you simply can’t enjoy sharing certain hobbies, learn something new for the both of you, and have someone else instruct the activity. This creates a neutral territory where both of you are beginners. If it turns out you’re both natural dancers, great; if not, you can still laugh together over the clumsiness of your shared “left feet.”
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Hi Evelyn!
Thanks heaps for sharing! And for the ‘library’ idea!
I think it’s really nice (and necessary) for us couples to have such times with each other ya … just hanging out, enjoying our moments as couples, and not just as ‘parents’.
For my case, since our families are all not in SG, it’s tough to go out and do stuff together outside without the kids in tow though.
Perhaps later when the kids are a little bigger … hmm.
PS: We did try something new (and exciting) in Bali though! 😀 I’ll share soon!
Playing in a band together was a really nice way for my husband Alf and I to hang out, without talking baby or home-related matters.
Since we’ve left the band and put our musical “career” on hold, we’ve actually discovered a new hangout — the library! We’ll plant ourselves at the library cafe for hours while my mum-in-law babysits. Usually one of us is working, while the other is chilling out with a good book. 🙂