Thoughts : Relationships
I was SO inspired by today’s sharing at our Women’s Fellowship.
Here’re some thoughts I’d like to share with you.
>> Family is an institution, a unit, that God Himself has established. And at the very core, it’s about the relationship between the husband and the wife.
>> One of the wives’ tasks is to ‘help the husband to be the leader God wants him to be’. When a wife takes over the leadership role in the family, the husband loses his identity, and the household will not be in balance.
>> Wives, after they have children, tend to focus only on the kids, and no longer on the husband. And when their kids have kids, the wives then focus on the grandkids.
If a wife’s focus is hardly ever on her husband, the family will face potential danger where ‘someone else’ meets the husband’s need for attention, respect and care.
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>> If a couple fails to continually work on mutual respect, open communication and a loving relationship, husband-wife relationship will deteriorate over time.
And if both fail to realise the potential danger of this, they unconsciously will grow further apart from each other (buried in their own busyness with career and kids) though living under the same roof. And it’ll be hard to ‘fix’ the relationship ten or twenty years later.
>> In today’s era, it’s realistically hard(er) to find family togetherness.
Parents tend to be busy with work and other things. Kids are often sent to attend lots of tuitions and courses that they too spend so little time at home and with other family members.
>> Computer, TV and games (like PlayStation, Xbox) also tend to give ‘less desirable’ impacts on us, especially the kids.
They can take away: the much-needed communication, social interactions and togetherness. Even good manners.
[eg. when a child is in front of the TV, he can be so focused on what he’s watching that he ‘ignores’ Mom or replies impatiently when she’s talking to him]
If parent-child relationships are not strongly built since young, they unfortunately cannot be ‘repaired’ and ‘redeemed’ at a later age
>> Relationship with others tend to be superficial too, now that most things are communicated via sms and emails (read: phone calls nowadays get less popular, compared to text messages).
>> Young children (below three especially) naturally depend on their parents, emotionally, physically, psychologically, to name a few. And if parent-child relationships are not strongly built since young, they unfortunately cannot be ‘repaired’ and ‘redeemed’ at a later age.
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The kind of society, technology and world we live in tend to make us and our children more individualistic (read: less loving and less ‘together’ as a unit).
It’s critical that we continually sow the seed of Faith and Truth in our family, as well as the importance of relationships, morality and characters.
Such a teaching must come from us parents, especially when the children are still very young.
A strong foundation must be built from within.
And it must start from us.
From our own family.
