Thoughts : Mothers and Wives – Privileged or Victimised
Some food for thought I’d like to share. From today’s Women’s Fellowship.
When we know the ‘price we need to pay’ for doing something and yet we still are willing to do it, it’s called ‘sacrifice’.
On the other hand, when we know all the consequences that come from doing something, and we still do it while thinking of ourselves as pityful and helpless in the situation, then we in this case see ourself as a ‘victim’.
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Some mothers feel that children ‘rob’ them off their ‘freedom’.
In reality, many Moms see themselves (and their role as a Wife and a Mom) as one of the two above.
Some mothers feel that children ‘rob’ them off their ‘freedom’.
And when this mindset develops further, the Mom then goes on complaining and feeling sorry for herself and the situation she’s in.
Often, she ends up feeling she’s the ‘victim’ who deserves other people’s full attention, understanding and sympathy.
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… there are those who see their role as a Mom a once-in-a-lifetime privilege.
And there are those who see their role as a Mom a once-in-a-lifetime privilege.
They perform their ‘duties’ willingly, knowing and accepting the consequences, responsibilities and ‘burdens’ that automatically come with the role.
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The role of a Wife and a Mom is not an easy one.
But I guess, the important question now is, what type of a Mom and a Wife are we?
It is only when we take some time to introspect and realise the type of mindset we now have that we can learn to work on ourselves and become an even better Mom and Wife.
May God help us all, to be better mothers and wives, … the kinds that HE wants us to be.
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I think too many times, mums think that we are ‘sacrificing willingly’ when we have subconsciously taken on a ‘martyr’s role’. Apart from self-pity, there’s also the danger of expecting too much in return from our children in the future.
I guess it’s a good reminder, that what counts most is where our heart is, wrt our motivations and perspective of who we are as mothers.
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Thanks, and yes I agree with you!
I was reminded recently that moms who feel they ‘give up a lot’ / sacrifice a lot … have the tendency to expect their children turn out ‘well’ too.
The reality is, there are so many other factors out there which will definitely affect our children, and many of those factors can’t be controlled by us. Nevertheless, as moms we must give our best to our children, to our best capability.