The emotional roller coaster of my 3-year-old girl
I don’t know if this happens to other little girls. All I know is that it happens – occasionally, not that frequently though (thank goodness!) – to Anya.
She can wake up crying in the morning, like … for 15 minutes, because I don’t give what she asks.
It can be about anything, really.
Like asking to watch one episode of her Dora the Explorer WHILE she eats her breakfast (I tell her that she can watch AFTER she finishes her breakfast, but she rejects that idea. Of course.)
Or wanting to eat some chocolate before her breakfast (I actually say she can have a bite AFTER her breakfast, but of course that option is not her preferred one)
Now the interesing bit.
When her Korean Drama episode gradually comes to an end, she often sort of continues on doing her usual stuff. Like nothing much really happen earlier on.
And I’d just be shaking my head, thinking that I perhaps was like that too when I was her age (… or worse).
…
PS: When Anya fusses like this, I’d try different approaches. From using calm and persuasive tone, to using firm and stern voice.
In the end sometimes I’d be leaving her alone in her room (where she can cry in front of zero audience). But before I actually leave, I’d always tell her that if she continues to cry and scream, I’d be leaving the room and she can only come out when she stops. Sometimes it works and she’d stop screaming. Sometimes it doesn’t and I’d leave the room.
I’d then be going in and out of the room to check on her every 5 minutes or so.
Thank goodness such a day and moment doesn’t come TOO often.
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When my girl has her diva fit, I put her in another room for her to scream and she knows she can join us once she is done. We only go to check with her when she stops screaming the hse down and not before that.
I think it’s a girl thing – mine burst into tears easily and now it’s crying first thing she wakes up and whatever sets her off into tears. Raising my voice a little will set her off into tears too. When I asked her why she’s crying, she says: Mommy raise her voice at me. or Mommy shout at me. Or mommy is angry at me. I don’t want mommy to be angry. Then burst into another on flood of tears. *sigh* When she does that, she makes me feel horrible and I calm down and reassure her that I still love her even though I’m upset with her.
Mine tries the same tactics with breakfast but she knows she can’t get her way when I firmly tells her either she drinks her milk first then she can hv her chocolates/cakes/biscuits or none at all, just milk. She has a choice to choose. And throwing a tantrum gets nothing.